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Mastering Your Emotions
Six Steps to Mastering Your Emotions 

How do most people handle their emotions? They avoid them endure them or use them to compete with other people. There’s a fourth way, a better way, and you can do it in six simple steps —learn from your emotions and utilize them

1. Identify the emotion and appreciate the message:
• It’s saying you have to change something.
2. Clarify:
• What is this emotion trying to tell me? What message is it offering? 
• Do I need to change my perception (the meaning) or my procedures (my communication or my behavior)?
3. Get curious and ask questions:
• How do I really want to feel? As soon as you identify what you want to feel, you’re moving in the direction you want to go. 
• What would I have to believe in order to feel that way now? 
• What am I willing to do to make it the way I want it? 
• What’s great about this, or what can I learn from this?
4. Get confident:
• Recall a specific time when you felt this emotion before and somehow got over it. 
• Remembering a time when you were able to deal with the emotion will reassure you that you can deal with it now. 
5. Get certain:
Imagine coming up with different ways of handling this emotion. If one doesn’t work, try another. Rehearse until you feel confident.
6. Get excited and take action!  
Do something right away that shows you can handle this emotion. Express your emotion in a way that reinforces what you’ve rehearsed in your mind and changes the way you feel.

We must cultivate our garden.  —Voltaire

The 10 Emotions Of Power
The best way to get yourself to do something is to put yourself in an emotional state where that behavior becomes automatic. For example, the easiest way to have close relationships and do the things that make you feel close to other people is to cultivate the emotion of being loving and warm. Here are 10 quick emotions to plant in your life on a daily basis. If you cultivate these emotions and focus on feeling them every day, you will plant the seeds of greatness in your life.

1. Love and Warmth 
2. Appreciation and Gratitude 
3. Curiosity 
4. Excitement and Passion 
5. Determination 
6. Flexibility 
7. Confidence 
8. Cheerfulness 
9. Vitality 
10. Contribution






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