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The persuasive Personality part 2

Speech is power, speech is to persuade, to convert, to compel
-Ralph Waldo Emerson

You can never express an attractive personality, to best advantage, through a harsh or shrill voice. You must cultivate your voice until it becomes rhythmical and pleasing to the ear.

Remember that speech is the chief method of expressing your personality, and for this reason it is your advantage to cultivate a style that is both forceful and pleasing.

Seven Chief factors which enter into the development of a pleasing personality:
1. Form the habit of interesting yourself in other people, and make it your business to find their good qualities and speak of them in terms of praise.
2.Develop the ability to speak with force and conviction, both in your ordinary conversational tones and before public gatherings, where you must use more volume.
3. Dress in a style that is becoming to you and appropriate to the work in which you are engaged.
4. Develop a positive character.
5. Learn how to shake hands so that you will express warmth and Enthusiasm through this form of greeting.
6. Attract other people to you by first "attracting yourself" to them.
7. Remember that the only limitation within reason, is the one that you set up in your own mind.

There is a great power of attraction in the person who has a positive character and this power expresses itself in unseen as well as visible ways. The moment you become within speaking distance of such a person, even though not a word is spoken, the influence of the "unseen power within" makes itself felt

Every "shady" transaction in which you engage, every negative thought that you think, and every destructive act destroys something within your character.

Emerson wrote "There is a full confession in the glances of our eyes; in our smiles; in salutations; in the grasp of the hands. His sin bedaubs him, mars all his good impression. Men know not why the do not trust him. But they do not trust him. His vice glasses his eye, demeans his cheek, pinches the nose, sets the mark of  beast on the back head, and writes, 'O Fool! Fool! on the forehead of a king."

To cultivate kindness is a valuable part of business of life.
-Samuel Johnson

Acquire the habit of making yourself agreeable and you profit both materially and emotionally, for you will never be as happy in any other way as you will be when you know that you are making others happy.

Get the chip off your shoulder and stop challenging people to engage you in useless arguments. Remove the dark glasses through which you see what you believe to be the negative side of life, and behold the shinning sunlight of friendliness instead. Throw away your hammer and quit knocking, for surely you must know that the big prizes of life go to the builders and not to the destroyers.

The man who builds a house is an artist; The man who tears it down is a junk man. If you are a person with a grievance, the world will listen to your caustic ranting only if it does not see you coming. But if you are a person with a message of friendliness and optimism, it will listen because it wishes to do.

No person with a grievance can also be a person with an attractive personality. The art of being agreeable just that one simple trait is the very foundation of all successful salesmanship.

Try not to become a man of success, but rather to become a man of value.
-Albert Einstein

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