EXERCISE TO IDENTIFY CONFLICTING BELIEFS

Set a timer for 10 minutes. Write a series of statements that begin with "I am." Write as fast as you can and let every thought come to your conscious attention. It is extremely important that you do not censor any statements, especially the contradictory ones.

At the end of the 10 minutes, look at the list and cross out everything that is a fact. For example, you would cross out statements such as I am a man/woman, I am blue-eyed, I am brown-haired.

All the statements that remain are the beliefs you are looking for. The beliefs that contradict each other are of particular importance. Contradictory beliefs cancel your energy because you have a built-in mental conflict between the validity of one belief expressing itself only at the direct expense of another belief. What are some examples of conflicting or contradictory beliefs?

I have to win./I may be undeserving.
I am a winner./I am a loser.
I am successful./I've missed my chance to be successful.
I deserve more./I am guilty.
I am a perfectionist./I believe humans are inherently imperfect.
I am trusting./I am untrustworthy or people are generally untrustworthy.
I believe there is no middle ground of satisfaction between winning and failure./I am pleased with myself and my progress.
I am honest./I am dishonest or people are generally dishonest.
I believe working is the honest way of making money./I believe trading is easy money, not work.

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