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Asking Yourself Questions

Here are some questions you can ask yourself that will help you to identify some beliefs that may argue against your giving yourself more money.

What do you believe about guilt? How do you know when to feel guilty?
Under what conditions would you not feel guilty, even if someone else wanted you to?
Is it possible to transfer those same standards to areas where you would feel guilty?
What would stop you?
Who or what out of your past says it is wrong and you can't do that?
Is their assessment of reality any more valid than yours? If so, why?
Do you find these beliefs useful? If so, in what ways? Do you find them limiting? If so, in what ways?
If you could identify and change the experience that created the belief, how would you change it?
What would stop you from changing it?

For the following questions you can substitute the words "is true" for the words "do you believe."
What do you believe about competition?
What do you believe about taking money from other people as a result of your superior trading skills? What do you believe about losses? What do you believe about other people's opinions? When are they valid? When aren't they valid? What do you believe about being wrong?

By answering these questions, you will begin to gain a sense of your own particular behavior and the range of choices you allow for yourself, or do not allow for yourself, as a result of your beliefs. Sometimes it is easier to identify a belief by trying to notice what you specifically believe is not true. You could also look at your beliefs as if they belonged to someone else. If they did belong to someone else, think of an experience in which this other person responded to certain life situations in very typical ways (because of your beliefs). Then think of ways he or she could respond if he or she had different beliefs. When you discover some beliefs that aren't particularly useful or are inconsistent with your goals, then use an affirmation or collapsing technique to decharge the energy out of it.   

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