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 THE REAL REASON HABITS MATTER

the true question is: “Are you becoming the type of person you want to become?” The first step is not what or how, but who. You need to know who you want to be. Otherwise, your quest for change is like a boat without a rudder. And that’s why we are starting here.

You have the power to change your beliefs about yourself. Your identity is not set in stone. You have a choice in every moment. You can choose the identity you want to reinforce today with the habits you choose today.

Building better habits isn’t about littering your day with life hacks. It’s not about flossing one tooth each night or taking a cold shower each morning or wearing the same outfit each day. It’s not about achieving external measures of success like earning more money, losing weight, or reducing stress. Habits can help you achieve all of these things, but fundamentally they are not about having something. They are about becoming someone.

Ultimately, your habits matter because they help you become the type of person you wish to be. They are the channel through which you develop your deepest beliefs about yourself. Quite literally, you become your habits.

Chapter Summary
-There are three levels of change: outcome change, process change, and identity change.
-The most effective way to change your habits is to focus not on what you want to achieve, but on who you wish to become.
-Your identity emerges out of your habits. Every action is a vote for the type of person you wish to become.
-Becoming the best version of yourself requires you to continuously edit your beliefs, and to upgrade and expand your identity.
-The real reason habits matter is not because they can get you better results (although they can do that), but because they can change your beliefs about yourself. 

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